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Unconditional love is given without any expectations, limitations or any other definitions.  In other words when you love someone unconditionally you do so without expectations that the sentiment will be returned, without placing restrictions or conditions under which the love will be expressed and without establishing defining parameters for when, where or why the love is felt or expressed. 

There are many examples of relationships where the love is unconditional.  The love between romantic partners, parent and child, siblings and even friends can all be examples of unconditional love.  The most important factors of unconditional love are that it is completely free of restrictions or expectations. 

In giving unconditional love, it is important that you have no expectations of reciprocation.  You offer your love freely and do not demand that the feeling be returned.  Unconditional love is about you and your feelings and does not involve trying to create the same feelings in another person. 

While you may hope and wish that the feeling is returned, truly unconditional love does not hold any expectations that a mutual feeling exists.  If you hold the expectation that your love for the other person is going to eventually be reciprocated and your love endures based on this expectation then it is not truly unconditional love. 

One example of unconditional love without any expectations is the love between a parent and child.  A parent may love their child unconditionally and while the feeling may be reciprocated by the child, the parent’s love will endure regardless of how the child feels.  Your unconditional love exists even if the other person does not have reciprocal feelings towards you or any intentions of ever having such feelings. 

Unconditional love also exists without any restrictions or limitations under which the feeling will remain.  Truly unconditional love endures any transgression imaginable. 

When you give your unconditional love, you do so knowing that the actions or words of the other person will not result in this loving feeling being revoked.  Even intentional acts meant to hurt you are overlooked when they are inflicted by someone with whom you have an unconditional love. 

Also, unconditional love is not used to attempt to control the actions of another.  Telling someone that they will lose your love if they do things you do not approve of is not unconditional love.  Romantic partners often have a feeling of unconditional love.  When this exists in the relationship, neither partner uses their love to control the other or threatens to revoke the love if their demands are not met. 

Truly unconditional love is given without any defining parameters.  When unconditional love is given, it is done so without the understanding that the love will only endure as long as certain conditions exist. 

Unconditional love exists without thought of setting definitions or other limitations on the love surviving.  Siblings are good examples of unconditional love that exists without any definitions. 

While siblings may fight throughout their lifetime there is a bond that is present always and is never challenged.  Siblings may become angry with each other but their unconditional love transcends all boundaries and survives through countless arguments and misunderstandings. 

Those who have an unconditional love for another always want the best for the one they love and allow them to be free to seek what will truly make them happy. 

Unconditional love involves wanting the best for the person you love and understanding that they need to be free and make their own choices to achieve this level of happiness.  While you may believe that you know what is best for your loved one, it’s important to let them learn things on their own and pursue opportunities and experiences that they believe will make them happy. 

They may end up making wrong choices but if you love them unconditionally you will always be there for them and will not judge their actions. 

Unconditional love is truly free of any expectations, limitations or definitions.  This is a love that holds your loved ones best interests and happiness above all other things including your own happiness. 

When you offer your love unconditionally it is important to realize that you have no right to expect that your feelings will be returned or that your loved one will act and speak according to guidelines you set forth.

Some of life’s greatest battles are over issues such as money, sex and children.  While these are issues that elicit passionate responses and feelings, it is possible to deal with these issues without arguing.  In fact not only can you avoid battles over these issues, but these issues can also enhance your relationship.  Having realistic expectations about these issues can help you to avoid or resolve any conflicts over these issues.  Money, sex and children are the source of many problems in a relationship so it’s advisable that you proceed with caution when these subjects arise. 

Money can be a tremendous source of tension and disagreements in a relationship.  Many couples struggle with financial matters and this perpetual struggle leads to tension in their relationship.  One way to alleviate the tensions associated with financial concerns is to make sure both partners are involved in financial matters.  If both partners are away of the amount of resources available to them and their monthly expenditures, they will both have a better understanding of where they stand financially.  This way if problems arise, neither partner is caught off guard in this situation.  It is also important that couples share the financial decision making process especially in regards to large purchases.  Sharing in making these decisions will ensure that each partner has the opportunity to voice their opinions or concerns and feels as though they are working as a team with their partner.  Conversely, if one partner makes a large purchase without consulting their partner, the relationship may suffer because the partner who was not involved in the decision begins to feel left out and hurt.  When a couple shares the financial responsibilities there is less likely to be problems that arise as a result of finances then there are when one of the partners takes sole responsibility for the finances. 

Sex can also be a source of trouble in a relationship.  Too much sex, not enough sex and sex that is too routine are common complaints in a relationship.  Some of these battles may be avoided by scheduling sexual encounters on a regular basis.  While it may sound unromantic to do this, the truth is that with work, children and other responsibilities sometimes there just isn’t time for sex unless it is scheduled ahead of time.  Scheduling will ensure that the couple engages in physical contact every so often instead of letting this aspect of their relationship take a back seat to other obligations.  Boring or routine sex is another common complaint in a relationship.  You can keep things interesting by varying your routine every once in awhile and trying new things.  You can also avoid problems related to sex in your relationship by discussing your likes and dislikes with your partner and encouraging your partner to be open with you about their likes and dislikes as well.  Sex is a healthy and necessary part of a relationship but it can also be a source of conflict in the relationship. 

Children are a blessing in a relationship but they can also be a source of many battles in the relationship.  The most important issue with children is whether or not a couple is both interested in having children.  If only one of the partners desires to have children then introducing children into the relationship can be a recipe for disaster.  If you are not both committed to having and raising children then it is best to put off having children until you are both ready to be parents.  If children are already a part of the relationship, they can still cause problems.  Arguments over disciplinary tactics are very common.  The couple may not agree on how to discipline their child and this disagreement can not only be detrimental to the relationship but can also be confusing for the child.  To avoid battles over children make sure you and your partner are committed to having children before attempting to conceive and discuss disciplinary tactics and come to an agreement that you will both abide by in dealing with the children. 

Money, sex and children are the subjects that couples argue about most often.  These volatile subjects can also be a source of great joy when managed correctly but until the couple learns how to do this, they will continue to be explosive issues.  The keys to dealing with these issues without starting battles is to tread lightly and not force your opinions, discuss the issues before they arrive and try to make the best of the existing situations without constant complaints.